Vineyard Life Journal

An online forum for our church family to connect around our 2012 daily Bible reading plan using the S.O.A.P. method.

Day 127

Monday, May 7, 2012

Welcome to Day 127 of our Life Journal!

Click here for today’s reading: 2 Samuel 13; 2 Samuel 14; Psalm 51; Matthew 24 (2012 Daily Bible Reading Plan)

Before you comment or read what I have posted, please read the following passages for yourself and complete your own S.O.A.P. exercise… How does this work?

S.O.A.P = Scripture, Observation, Application, Prayer

S cripture

2 Samuel 13, “And Tamar took the bread she had prepared and brought it to her brother Amnon in his bedroom. 11 But when she took it to him to eat, he grabbed her and said, “Come to bed with me, my sister.” 12 “No, my brother!” she said to him. “Don’t force me! Such a thing should not be done in Israel! Don’t do this wicked thing. 13 What about me? Where could I get rid of my disgrace? And what about you? You would be like one of the wicked fools in Israel. Please speak to the king; he will not keep me from being married to you.” 14 But he refused to listen to her, and since he was stronger than she, he raped her.

15 Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred. In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her. Amnon said to her, “Get up and get out!””

v 28 “Absalom ordered his men, “Listen! When Amnon is in high spirits from drinking wine and I say to you, ‘Strike Amnon down,’ then kill him. Don’t be afraid. Haven’t I given you this order? Be strong and brave.” 29 So Absalom’s men did to Amnon what Absalom had ordered.”

2 Samuel 14, Absalom returns to Jerusalem after two years… This is not going to end well. It begins with deception…

Matthew 24:32, “Now learn this lesson from the fig tree: As soon as its twigs get tender and its leaves come out, you know that summer is near. 33 Even so, when you see all these things, you know that it is near, right at the door. 34 Truly I tell you, this generation will certainly not pass away until all these things have happened. 35 Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away.”

O bservation

It’s difficult for me to focus on the New Testament when I know there are multiple opportunities (four Gospels) to touch on different topics, when the Old Testament is a timeline unveiling before us, and the stories are so compelling. Today is no exception…

What a tragic story of a young man (Amnon) raping his (half) sister (Tamar), despising and discarding her immediately after. Then Absalom kills Amnon. So now, King David has a son that raped one of his daughters, then another son kills the son (his half-brother) who raped Tamar.

A pplication

While speaking over the weekend, I quoted from Matthew 5, “He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.” We all get rained on… But no one ever would expect this. Such a tragic story. It’s like something one would see in a made-for-tv movie. So sad, so tragic, and it’s only going to go downhill from here. (If you know how it plays out over the next few chapters… with the pending death of Absalom, and David’s reaction to it.)

As a father, one would never expect one of your sons to rape one of your daughters. Nothing can prepare you for something like that. The shame and disgrace brought upon your family by such a calculated and thoughtless act of brutality can not be measured. How does a family ever recover from such an occurrence?

And poor Tamar, no longer able to wear the robe that indicated she was (still) a virgin. v 20, “And Tamar lived in her brother Absalom’s house, a desolate woman.”

Some of the situations we go through in life are heart-wrenching. Sexual abuse has to be at the top of that list.

How does a young woman ever recover from being abused by her own brother, or worse… her own father?

Statistics show that one in four people (both male and female) have been sexually abused. Can you believe that? One out of every four…

Often those victims go on to live lives of promiscuity that only leads to more hurt and shame, loneliness and broken marriages, multiple kids from multiple fathers. And abusers often grow to become abusers themselves.

Only the grace of God can lift a person out of these circumstances and restore one to wholeness.

P rayer

Lord, I pray right now for every person reading this who has suffered abuse and is living under a cloud of pain. Please draw close to them, heal their hearts. Show them the path to healing and wholeness… In Jesus’ name.


P.S. If you are a victim of sexual abuse, here is a great book… Click on the book image or HERE to order the book.


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5 thoughts on “Day 127

  1. I can’t fathom the feeling of being sexually assaulted. I had my car broken into once and felt completely violated. How much worse to have your body violated. I am praying Scott’s prayer in agreement.

  2. Mark Long on said:

    I felt the fear as a teen of coming home alone to a house that had been broken into, but cannot imagine being violated in that way. I’ve also seen the pain, scars and remnants of abuse in people those that are near to me. Lord heal the the scars of those that have been abused and hold them close and heal them.

  3. Go to bed and pretend to be ill…

    It’s like seeing the life-cycle of sin unfolding. Desire turns into lust which turns into deceit. She even offers to become married to him and do it the right way, yet he rapes her anyway, then hates her, most likely out of his own feelings of guilt. Absalom, Tamar’s brother, becomes enraged and has Amnon murdered. Then more deceit…

    It’s like the OT just turned into a soap opera. I can’t stand soap operas. They romanticize bad behavior. Someone is leaving someone, sleeping with someone they shouldn’t be, backstabbing, murder, gossip, etc… Now we have shows such as the Real Housewives of… We tend to relate to these characters and model our lives after them. Has a soap opera storyline ever depicted someone performing a selfless act for someone else? Most likely, but it is not the norm.

    Sin always seems to be a downward spiral. I always thought it was strange that coveting was a sin, but look what it led to here. It started a chain reaction and went therm-nuclear. Had Amnon simply expressed his desire to marry her… If he had a friend who encouraged him to do the right thing or at least tell him to refrain from doing the wrong thing… I want to be that friend who encourages others to do the right thing and I want friends who encourage me to do the right things.

    We need to be mindful of what we are feeding our brains. I can hardly stand to watch TV anymore unless it is shows like Auction Hunters, American Pickers… Reality shows like Big Brother and Survivor show people as they back stab and scheme against others out of greed to win a bunch of money. In reality, we don’t get to vote people out, so why is it called “Reality TV”. This should NOT be our reality. I am astounded by how many shows in prime time or shortly after show people in bed having sex, yet it’s OK because they don’t show nudity. ???

    I have come to really enjoy the show Duck Dynasty. It seems odd, but it shows people who are less than perfect and often rub each other the wrong way, but every episode shows that they forgive each. They end the show with the family gathered around the table praying over their meal followed by the main character, Willie, sharing what they learned.

    Lord, I pray for better role models in our lives. I ask that our entertainment be cleaned up, that morning talk shows and shock jocks be regulated for their sexual innuendos. We need more role models on the national stage like Tim Tebow and Bubba Watson who give You the glory for their successes. I also pray for victims of sexual abuse, that through You, they piece their lives back together. In Jesus name.

  4. Nicole Marvin on said:

    Matthew 24:39 “Yet they did not realize what was happening until the flood came and swept them all away. That is how it will be when the Son of Man comes.”

    Matthew 24:44 “So them, you also must always be ready, because the Son of man will come at an hour when you are not expecting him.”

    Be ready. Be aware. Let Jesus live in me each day. Don’t follow the crowd. Remember the truth. Make God proud.

    Lord, I come in agreement with the others and ask for your healing for those that have been sexually abused. We ask that they will feel your love, acceptance and care. May they feel your presence in their lives and be reminded that you are their protector and defender.

  5. This is what happens – pain- when people live by their own rules. It only destroys lives. What is so wrong with believing in a God who loves you? People say it is a crutch, but let me tell you it is not the easy road. Love the unlovely? Pray for your enemies? God has the perfect plan for our lives. Despite other people’s sin impacting our path – He will make a way. Thank you Lord for your light that never burns out. You guide my path every moment of every day. You are only a prayer away. I love that!

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